I know a certain person who had tons of issues with his wife – She died in an accident, he remarried..and that was such a mess that they ended up getting divorced, he often cries about her and how he never really valued his first wife – He did after she died, and even more so when he found someone else who he thought was oh so great and it was horrible.
Escapsim is good sometimes, but reality of the situation has to be factored in. Everyone will have bad habits, moments, approaches that may bug you, but that is where give and take comes into play.
As I have stated before, people look at their circumstances and see whether the glass is half full or half empty, without really realizing that as soon as we look at the glass being half full or half empty we are only fooling ourselves — and by focusing on the most obvious we may be missing the most critical.
The glass is not half empty, the glass is not half full. The glass is 100% full, half with water and half with air. We are so used to air that we don’t value it — its free – it is not seen but its vital and critical that one can live without water for how long versus living without air.
Same goes for relationships. What is it that you are not noticing or valuing, even though it my be right in front of you — and you are so used to it that it is no longer appreciated or seen as attractive, valuable, desirable etc etc.
Just take a step back and think — What is the ‘air’ in your relatonships that you are not valuing, and worrying about the ‘missing’ half of water?